Hello people of the world, fat ones, skinny ones, black ones, white ones, male, female and gender variable ones, this is for you all. I use crass language here. I am blunt here. Deal with that or piss off. I find this is the final frontier for me, I have no one else to talk to, either they can't keep up or they don't like my "tone" or they just use any excuse they can come up with to not have to accept truth or accountability when they ought to.
I spent decades beating myself up for how I communicated with others. I did different experiments to improve myself, like going days at at a time not speaking at all, just writing everything down. Bear in mind, this was prior to the internet and cell phones so I carried around a notebook and pencil, remember those? I've done the, 'only speak when spoken to' thing as well. All these things I did because I have been accused of "being sassy", "having a mouth on me" and all sorts of other rubbish.
I aim to speak my mind here, I'm trying to be as clear about that as I can be. It's 2020 and the world has gone insane. I'm taking off my own shackles. I've been walking on eggshells my whole life for one reason or another keeping myself muzzled while everyone else was speaking their mind, often to their own detriment, it's funny. It took me awhile to figure it out because I was so busy blaming myself for everything and doing the work to improve. I owe a huge debt to the people who have helped me see the truth, they know who they are.
The truth is, that's just it: the TRUTH. It's never been about my "tone" and indeed, while I was sassy when I was younger I was in good company, I mean, who wasn't? I'm not anymore, I'm honest, that's what people can't handle. That's what rubs them the wrong way. I watch, I observe, and I learn. I look where no one else is looking and I see everything. I will bring facts, opinions too, based on facts. I will indeed have opinions and I'll listen to yours if you'll listen to mine.
I've realized that anyone using my "tone" or delivery as an excuse to dismiss me wasn't actually upset with my tone or delivery. What they were upset with was what I was saying, not how I said it. It was people who can't handle the objective truth. it was people who knew the truth would reveal their real intentions to be less than stellar. What I present as fact here is fact with evidence, if I'm wrong, I'll be the first to admit it.
I will bring evidence not just my precious feelings to support my facts and opinions. That is what I bring to this table. Oh, and I will speak my mind at this table, if you cannot handle it, leave. There's a little 'x' in the upper right corner, click on it and don't let it poke you in you're cyber-ass on the way out.
I created this as my safe space based on how I see people create their own safe spaces. It's safe for me and that's all that matters, if you don't like it, kick rocks.This is the only place I don't have to sugar-coat everything for the easily triggerable.
It may come off a little hypocritical for me to be such an asshole here but when you get down to it, if you are offended by what is said here ask yourself why. Maybe it has nothing to do with me. Maybe you're just an aggressively anal retentive d-bag who needs to check those fingers pointing right back at you as you go around pointing yours at everyone else, assigning blame.
Put on your big kid pants for sobbing out loud and let's go back to a world where people were cool. Those were the days. People were cool and not whining little cancelling twists. If 2020 and lock-down has taught me anything it's that I don't miss people, I miss when they were cool, they just aren't anymore, the scales have tipped, we're outnumbered. Also, people need connection and that would be so much easier if any out there were worth connecting with.
We can do better, people.
I spent decades beating myself up for how I communicated with others. I did different experiments to improve myself, like going days at at a time not speaking at all, just writing everything down. Bear in mind, this was prior to the internet and cell phones so I carried around a notebook and pencil, remember those? I've done the, 'only speak when spoken to' thing as well. All these things I did because I have been accused of "being sassy", "having a mouth on me" and all sorts of other rubbish.
I aim to speak my mind here, I'm trying to be as clear about that as I can be. It's 2020 and the world has gone insane. I'm taking off my own shackles. I've been walking on eggshells my whole life for one reason or another keeping myself muzzled while everyone else was speaking their mind, often to their own detriment, it's funny. It took me awhile to figure it out because I was so busy blaming myself for everything and doing the work to improve. I owe a huge debt to the people who have helped me see the truth, they know who they are.
The truth is, that's just it: the TRUTH. It's never been about my "tone" and indeed, while I was sassy when I was younger I was in good company, I mean, who wasn't? I'm not anymore, I'm honest, that's what people can't handle. That's what rubs them the wrong way. I watch, I observe, and I learn. I look where no one else is looking and I see everything. I will bring facts, opinions too, based on facts. I will indeed have opinions and I'll listen to yours if you'll listen to mine.
I've realized that anyone using my "tone" or delivery as an excuse to dismiss me wasn't actually upset with my tone or delivery. What they were upset with was what I was saying, not how I said it. It was people who can't handle the objective truth. it was people who knew the truth would reveal their real intentions to be less than stellar. What I present as fact here is fact with evidence, if I'm wrong, I'll be the first to admit it.
I will bring evidence not just my precious feelings to support my facts and opinions. That is what I bring to this table. Oh, and I will speak my mind at this table, if you cannot handle it, leave. There's a little 'x' in the upper right corner, click on it and don't let it poke you in you're cyber-ass on the way out.
I created this as my safe space based on how I see people create their own safe spaces. It's safe for me and that's all that matters, if you don't like it, kick rocks.This is the only place I don't have to sugar-coat everything for the easily triggerable.
It may come off a little hypocritical for me to be such an asshole here but when you get down to it, if you are offended by what is said here ask yourself why. Maybe it has nothing to do with me. Maybe you're just an aggressively anal retentive d-bag who needs to check those fingers pointing right back at you as you go around pointing yours at everyone else, assigning blame.
Put on your big kid pants for sobbing out loud and let's go back to a world where people were cool. Those were the days. People were cool and not whining little cancelling twists. If 2020 and lock-down has taught me anything it's that I don't miss people, I miss when they were cool, they just aren't anymore, the scales have tipped, we're outnumbered. Also, people need connection and that would be so much easier if any out there were worth connecting with.
We can do better, people.